Stereotyping; it goes so easily. Justifying ourselves for treating some people with friendliness while we treat others with hostility. Why? Judging a book by its cover isn’t always a good thing. Making assumptions without knowing the full story isn’t a good idea either.
Yet somehow… Whenever someone looks a certain way, we automatically assume we know what the person is like. When we talk to a person and they act a certain way, we right away make more assumptions about them.
Sure, there is such a thing as the ability to understand another human being. This ability works best by really trying to get to know another human being first, though.
We analyze people with our so called people skills and our self entitledment. Because heck yeah, we all know psychology thanks to wikipedia and youtube. And thus we know why people are the way they are. We know people by just looking at them for a second! We know the real reason why that lady behaves like a bunghole, it is as clear as a whistle to us!
But the truth is; We don’t know crap! Sure, some behavior might come across as familiar because we’ve seen others behave the same. Perhaps we even think we know, because it reminds us of ourselves in certain ways. But honestly; We don’t know, not really.
Someone could be in a really angry mood and could come across as a real mean person. Someone might have a resting bitch-face syndrome but could be the nicest person you’ve ever met, but they just behave like bungholes because others have treated them like bungholes for so long. Perhaps they have never been in a certain situation before and that makes them extra edgy. We could behave like bungholes to them as well. But, a friendly smile can do so much more. It could really lighten someone’s mood or even brighten someone’s day.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in this crazy life; it’s that an act of genuinely unexpected kindness can go a long way.